Do you still remember that wondrous and exuberant feeling you had after the wedding ceremony was done? Do you still relish that moment when both of you were so in love during your honeymoon and lived every moment to please one another? If so, love and passion are still in your heart, you just have to rekindle it.
“Too much Familiarity”
Chemistry between the couples is very important. It is that excitement and smile you get every time you see your husband or wife across the room. This feeling is very important and should be giving constant attention so that it grows. It is said that too much familiarity with each other can cause that chemistry of love and passion to simmer down. Remember, it only simmers down, it has not died down. Truly, time is not the enemy of passion, but the time that goes by when you ignore romance with your spouse can be detrimental. To rekindle your passions, there are options from counseling to trips, but the important thing is that one-on-one quality time (not dragging your spouse along on a business trip) is paramount. You and your partner can have that “honeymoon vacation” feeling again
Here are some wise quotes about life, particularly about love and marriage:
“Your life and my life flow into each other as wave flows into wave, and unless there is peace and joy and freedom for you, there can be no real peace or joy or freedom for me. To see reality–not as we expect it to be but as it is–is to see that unless we live for each other and in and through each other, we do not really live very satisfactorily; that there can really be life only where there really is, in just this sense, love.” – Frederick Buechner, The Magnificent Defeat
“What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with compatibility.” – George Elliot
Surprise, Surprise, Surprise
You have though deeply about your relationship and realize that you still love your partner and the only that is lacking is that exciting feeling that you once had. First and foremost, you must realize that the highest form of love, that agape love that Jesus demonstrated on the cross, is a love characterized by a decision that you want the best in life for your spouse. It is not based on feelings, as the Greek word in the Bible for that type of feeling love is a completely different Greek word.
I’m not saying that the “feeling” type of love is unimportant in a marriage, but people sometimes to get a divorce because they no longer have the “feeling” of love. After the initial passion of marriage, it is common for the feelings that you initially had to begin to abate a little. That is normal. That is when you must decide to continue to invest in the romance of your marriage, to keep that feeling alive. But even if the feeling is no longer evident, you can get that back through action. It is not gone forever. It is not a reason to divorce, only a reason to concentrate efforts upon your relationship.
You can start livening up those feelings again by surprising her. Have your forgotten the size of her lingerie? Do not worry. Bring home her favorite flowers, or better yet, have them delivered to her office or at home with a simple note in it for all to see. While not forgetting the important occasions, send her flowers when it is not her birthday, anniversary, Mother’s Day or Valentine’s Day also.
You can also surprise her by leaving some wise quotes about life in well-placed note for her to find that tell her how happy you are that she is your wife, lover and mother of your kids. Why not call her in the middle of the day and tell her that you are going to pick her up and take her to lunch? That would really surprise her.
Honeymoon Vacations at Home
Gradually the chemistry will be rekindled. You can see that glow in her eyes again, which has not been there for quite some time. You see her smile again and realize that even after all these years, your wife is still a beauty.
It’s time now to actually take that sweet and wonderful second honeymoon vacation. What you want to do is bring stoke that exhilarating feeling between you and your partner. You do not have to go out of town; you don’t need to spend thousands of dollars; you don’t have to search online for all inclusive cruises to the Caribbean; and you don’t need to take any formal dresses and tuxedo with you. You can have your honeymoon at home. Ask your kids to stay with their friends or your relatives. Explain to them why you are doing this. They are going to cooperate and find this wonderful. Take a day (or vie) off from work. Cook her favorite dish or order that from her favorite restaurant. Light some candles in the living room and open a bottle of wine.
Rake the yard, do the dishes, the laundry, do the gardening together. Together, together, together – this is the key. It does not really matter where or when, what matters most is rekindling happy memories together. By doing so, you have not only rekindled the past, but you may have added years to your years of marriage, and what is a better investment than that!